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Did you ever move out of Sicily?

I am an American and growing up one of my best friends was Sicilian. Over the years I have become increasingly aware of how dishonest him and his family are.

I have so many stories of how scummy their family is. They are easily the most greedy and short sighted people I've ever met. Right now they have a family business where they have clothing donation boxes that they drop on the side of the road without approval from the city/county. They make sure there is no way to trace it back to them, and when the boxes are filled up they sell the clothes for profit. I think they have it set up as a charity for tax purposes and they don't pay any taxes.

The concept of earning things does not apply to them. They are ALWAYS looking to cut corners. Even when the right way is equal or less work, they will still look to take the wrong route. I would say the mom and the daughter are nice people. The daughter especially is really cool and turned out great. But the dad, and his two sons, are scumbags. And the mom has stuck with the dad too long for me to really respect her. They won't even let her have a social media account. The dad controls her.

I grew up in a rich area and on sleepovers parents would often take us out to dinner.  My parents would give me spending money and I would always offer it to the parents of the child who's home I slept at, but they would always refuse - every time. Well one time my friends dad takes us somewhere and it was $5 for my meal. I had a $10 my parents gave me and offered it to him expecting him to deny it like the other parents, and he took the whole thing! Snatched it out of my hand and didn't give me any change. The dad is a cheap piece of shit and I have dozens of stories just like that.

I have literally had all of them steal from me. It was marijuana, but still. Theft is theft. The youngest son stole an ipod from my desk when I had him over my house, before I knew he was a little thief. I found it in his room a few weeks later. One time I was showing my weed to his dad because it was purple and really nice, his dad handed me back the bag. Later in the day I walked into a room in their house and his dad was there looking at my bud. He looked up at me and acted super awkward because he knew he had been caught stealing. I didn't know what to say. My close friend was the older son, and I witnessed him steal from stores quite a lot growing up but as kids I didn't think much of it. It wasn't until we were teenagers and he started selling drugs that I saw how dumb and scummy he was. One of his friends did xanax frequently and was in the hospital and had serious health issues. I don't remember all the details but I remember that the doctors said he could not do xanax anymore. My friend sold him a bottle of bars right when he got out the hospital, and I remember being like why the fuck would you do that? The kid died a few days later.

So fast forward to college and my friend is now becoming really scummy and we are growing apart. One of my other friends decides to live with him in college - they were pretty close friends also. So the sicilian friend gets a bunch of plates and cups donated for free, but he told my friend it was $30 and asked him if he would split it and give him $15. My friend said that a few days later the sicilians girlfriend came by and said to him "wasn't it nice of my friend to donate those plates and cups?" So he knew then and there that he tried to scheme him for $15. And this is what he does to close friends. He looks to scheme them left and right. He owed me $200 and paid me $40 of it. Next time he came to see me he said - "gave you 60, here is the remaining $140". I have dozens of stories just like this. In fact, he recently came over my home and he stole some bud from me. That is why I'm here, because I'm never going to associate with him again. It's hard because I had considered him like a brother, but as a kid you don't have a good sense of who is dishonest. The only people who remain in touch with them are those with no self respect.

I do tend to think it is their sicilian roots that are a big reason for their greedy and dominating behavior. It almost does seem like a mafia mentality. They are extremely inconsiderate of other peoples time and will keep you waiting while they shoot the shit about nothing. It seems they try to find petty ways to dominate people and put themselves up on a pedestal. For instance, when I smoke with my sicilian friend, if he sparks the blunt he will often times hit it like 8 times until it is half way done unless you bitch at him. And when I roll a blunt, he will roll one too just so he gets to spark a blunt. So I asked him, how come when I roll the blunt, you need to roll one also? I think it's his little way of feeling like the king in his own petty little blunt smoking world. I told him I felt like he hits the blunt so much because it's his way of dominating people and getting priority. This is the way sicilians treat people. A very selfish, me first attitude. The type of people who will cut a line and make the people who follow the rules and respect others wait longer.

My friend lives in his own delusional world, living off his wife who works full time and he works 2 days a week for his dad collecting clothes in a truck. They are all dumb as fuck but they think they are smart. I will say they are open minded thinkers, but it's usually in a way that reaffirms their corruption. They think breaking the rules is always the thing to do. The two kids are now 32 and 30 and they have nothing going on. The dad co-signed on a mortgage for one who doesn't work, and the other works with his dad. They are suckling at the teet of their dad who is a sheister. Eventually I think it's all gonna come crashing down, and honestly I can't help but want to see it because I just see them throw so much dirt under the rug and constantly lie to themselves. They are some of the most delusional people I've ever met.

On the other hand they do have a friendly side and don't seem to be as jealous/bitter as most people I know. You won't really hear them talking shit about other people. It's like their brain is wired completely differently. They are very slow paced. But even though they are friendly and won't disrepsect you with words, they disrespect you with their actions.

I found your post just trying to find if other ppl have had these interactions with Sicilians. I find my friends behavior to be pretty unusual. I tend to think it is their culture because Sicily is a small island that puts a ton of emphasis on tradition. Which means the Sicilians living in Siciliy in 1800 may not be so different from the Sicilians in America today.