Posted by fschmidt on
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If you don't feel comfortable with "alternate methods of sexual release with other women" then just don't give him a pass.  But I think you are wrong about this diminishing your value.  The value of a wife is much more than just sex.  Of course there is an asymmetry here because it isn't acceptable for a wife to meet her needs with other men.  The reason for this is that women have a limited number of eggs, representing her reproductive capacity, while men have a virtually unlimited number of sperm, representing his reproductive capacity.  This is why men are not choosy in who they have sex with.  A man never considers the question of whether one woman or another is a better candidate for sex because he will generally want both.  But a woman always considers the comparative level of attraction when choosing a sexual partner.  So the point is that a husband having sex with another woman doesn't diminish the value of his wife at all.  But in the end, you should do what you feel comfortable with.

And no matter how far apart you are, I think you should try to visit your husband once in a while.