Posted by Ember on
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Fscmidt,

A mutual friend of ours suggested I ask you this question.  Sadly, I think everything is in process but maybe you have some ideas on how to make it better.

In 1999, my mother had a spinal chord injury at around T5/T6.  It wasn't a complete injury so she has some limited function back but she is still a paraplegic.  My parents are father, 73 and mother 70.  My father is having to undergo surgery on his leg due to grave circulation problems.  I don't think he can continue to care for my mother or even himself.  Additionally, my husband's mother had a brain tumor 3 years ago and has cognitive difficulties.  Although she has two sons who live less than 2 hours away - we are her medical power of attorneys because her sons have turned their back on her.  All of our family lives in the same state.

We are planning to move back to our home state late this year or early next.  However, it appears that I must leave here and go there just to get a handle on things.  My husband heartily approves.  We plan to move to our hometown and be together as quickly as possible.

I feel bad that I am sacrificing his comfort and security and access to his wife in order to do this.  Can you think of anything I should be willing to do for him to help him process this time of separation?  One of the guys suggested giving him a 'hall pass' (ie. see other women).  

What is your opinion?

Ember
Married 22 years.